At first, it feels harmless. You say yes when you mean maybe. You smile even when you’re breaking inside. You bend, twist, shrink just a little to keep the peace, to avoid disappointing anyone. It becomes a habit. Then a pattern. Then... an identity. People start calling you "so sweet," "so easygoing," "so understanding." But they don’t see what it’s costing you. Because being a people pleaser isn’t about kindness. It’s about fear. The fear of being disliked. The fear of being seen as difficult. The fear of being left behind if you dare to take up space. So you start betraying yourself in tiny, almost invisible ways. You laugh at jokes that hurt you. You say "it’s okay" when it really wasn’t. You go along with plans you never wanted. You become the version of you that others find most convenient. And slowly, painfully - you disappear. Not all at once. But piece by piece. Boundary by boundary. Truth by truth. Until one day, you’re alone in your ro...
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