'Conditioning is the problem here' Have you ever heard so? Whether heard or not, we all are used to it for sure. Atleast 80% of problems around us take place because of this.
So what is conditioning? It is something through which the society tame us according to them. It begins from our childhood.
"You are a girl, sit calmly."
"You are a boy. So don't cry."
"Why don't you behave like others?"
"Why aren't you walking like ordinary people?"
"Why can't you speak like us?"
"A Husband is equal to god."
"A wife should work like a slave for her man."
"A woman should be proud to eat the leftovers of her man."
"Why can't you just leave it for him?"
"Who do you think you are?"
"You have black skin. So it would be difficult for you to get married!"
"You look so fat! How can you even walk out and face others?"
"No need to get ready this long!"
"Why are you speaking with him/her?"
"Speak softly."
"Don't be over smart. People are noticing."
"What are you daydreaming about?"
Atleast we would've gone through any one of these. Perhaps we would've been subjected to much greater conditionings.
It is a form of oppression. An encroachment on an individual's personality! To adjust someone's individuality for other's convenience is such a sad condition.
Even more examples are there; "Coloured clothes should not be worn everywhere"; why?!
"You should get ready grand only when you're gonna attend a wedding!" ; Why? Isn't it our convenience and choice to decide how we should get ready?
"Politicians, public workers and social reformers should always wear simple clothes." ; Would their activities get changed if they wear alternatively?
"Health workers should not get angry." ; Others may even beat them, can't they even get angry?
"You should always be humble to everyone" ; We all humans and our moods may vary according to the situations. Can't we even lose our temper? Such kinds of conditiongs could be listed countlessly.
Except for the actions which are disrespectful and against our inner conscience, we should never fall prey to any kind of conditioning. Even we should not do this to our upcoming generations.
We all are humans; we may talk, laugh, get smart, get gloomy, may have mood swings, may have darker/lighter skin tone, may have fat/skinny body nature, may have friendships, may have love affairs, may have broken relationships, may have confidence, may sit idle, may speak loud! So what?!
Others absolutely have nothing to do with all these. They do this just to make you fit to their convenience, not to make you 'a better person.' They are suppressing our inner selves without even our knowledge. Don't give up. None of them is your life. Its you, just YOU!
Wishing you all to have a good day.
Thanking You :)