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Hey ! Are you happy ?

How are you ?... Whats up ?...
These are familiar questions we ask to our dear ones. But, have you ever asked someone if they were happy ? Ever asked if they have any problem ? Ever tried to hold them up and make them share their problems ?


Maybe they are uploading the sad whatsapp status or instagram stories wishing if someone would ask them. Perhaps they are trying to say something. Though knowing it, we shouldn't ignore them any more. Most of the people around us wish to have someone to ask if they had any problem and share everything with them so that they can be peaceful.
 


If you think there is something wrong with someone's behaviour, don't hesitate to ask them.

Its just meaningless to live with just our own happiness. Our happiness will be strong enough only if the people around us are happy. Along with our personal happiness, the happiness of others equally matters.

Maybe we could find a solution for their problem. Eventhough if you cannot do anything too, listening to someone's problem would never be in vain. 

Many of you might have read a famous story by Sudha Murthy, 'Horegallu'.
 

In that she says, the relevance of good listeners, who is non- judgemental and trustworthy is increased in the present times. Everyone needs a 'horegallu', the literally a stone bench, to lay down all their loads in their lives. 

Thus, never leave a chance to be a good listener. Just enquire if they are happy.


Perhaps if we fail to ask them if something is wrong, we might not get another chance for it. They might remain a question mark forever, unable to share anything with anyone. Just try this not be happened.

On the other side, never hesitate to share our problems with others who you think are trustworthy, in the sense who you think they would not share your problem with anyone else. Just find your own 'stone bench'. Remember, we all need it in our lives. Happiness is really important !


Wishing you all to have a good day.

Thanking You :)


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