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' No matter how educated you are or what job you're doing, happiness is to get married, to have babies and live as a family ' - most of you might be familiar with these words. Atleast some other versions of the same content. We usually come across such words in the form of advice. 

There are people who take advantage of the circumstances where women could not proceed their higher studies and other career options. They say that women who are highly educated finds it difficult to find a groom. They say that women with higher salaries than their husbands would seldom 'respect' them.


They want women to sit back in the house, looking after the kids and to give up whole of their career. They expect them to look after the in-law parents, staying back at the house.

It really hurts to say that it is still the same scenario over the years here, in this society ! To get married, have kids, do the household chores.....do they think these are the eternal  purpose of life ? 

We can see many women around us who had to give up their careers and dreams just because they 'had to' get married.


Men who think that women are just a tool to produce the next generation still exists ! He says, " I'm here to work for us to run the family. No need for a woman to work to meet our ends", and thats it ! There are still those men who think that if a woman works, it is a shame for his 'masculinity' !

I'm not here to support/ favour a certain society of women who thinks that, 'all these make me a perfect  house wife alias uthama kulasthree'. But, I'm concerned about the women who really wants to get educated and have a career of their own and be independent.


 To get married or to give birth is none of the important aspects of one's life. It is just their personal choice to/ not to do all those. All that matters is one's individuality which could be attained only with an independent life. To stand on your own feet is of course, the most important aspect in anybody's life.

 
Watch this video featuring the Indian film actor and director Basil Joseph. A simple explanation regarding the importance of self- sufficiency in a person's life.

Special note : To be independent is not just for the women (since I mentioned the whole about females), but also for the men. 

Let everyone attain their own success. Let them achieve their own happiness. Let everyone be independent. Try to stand with them and support them. If not, stay out of their way. 


Wishing you all to have a good day.

Thanking you :)
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