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Some misconcepts about mother


1. "You can be a mother if and only if you give birth to the child naturally"

Wrong !! There is no obligation to know the pain to become a mother. You can have the epidural and give birth to the child without any pain. Or you can have a Cesarean if the doctor instructs. Not just these, you can also opt for a surrogacy or adoption. They too are mothers as they love their child to the core and also gives their time and care to look after them. Mere 'passers by's are none to decide the eligibility.


2. "Only being a mother completes a woman"

Wrong !! No one could be complete by just having a baby. At the same time, those who don't have/ want a baby are not imperfect/ incomplete.

3. "Motherhood and breastfeeding are the skills alias gifts given to women by the nature"

Wrong !! These skills are not often in-built, but to be learned further. No such philosophy works here and it indeed is not a blissful experience for many in the beginning.


And it is not your fault if it was not easy for you, the initial days. 

4. "Seeing the baby after giving birth relieves all your pains and all the pain will be forgotten at the very first glance"

Wrong !! It's good if you have had such an experience at the very first time. But, it's not obligate to happen this for everyone.


Also, there is nothing unusual if the bond between the mother and the baby develops gradually, with constant touches, caressing and breastfeeding.

5. "Being a mother is the greatest honor ever a woman can ask for"

Wrong !! From the Nobel Prizes and Oscars to the small prizes here in Kerala, the list of honors is so long, and are in many sizes. Plus, the honors earned by proving the talents in academics or sports or science or cinema are not any less.


6. There is a proverb in malayalam, "thalla chavittiyal pillakk kedilla"- which means, it is okay for a mother to hurt her own child.

Wrong !! It's not at all fine to hurt a child, even if it is the mother, father or anyone else.

7. "Mothers are supposed to be the most patient and tolerant"


Wrong !! Mothers have the same level of tolerence/ patience and emotions as anyone else in the world. 

There are many such misconceptions around us, which will never end !

Dear mothers, just ignore them all. You're definitely doing a great job. Brace yourself and let go of all the insecurities. It's not at all necessary to please anyone else. It is your life and the decisions are indeed yours !


Lots of love and courage to you all...!!

Wishing you all to have a good day.

Thanking you :)
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