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They don't ; so do we !


Here's a clip from the Malayalam film 'Bangalore Days' by Anjali Menon

This happened a few days back. I happened to visit a supermarket and there was a lady infront of me waiting at the bill counter. The person over there asked her name and mobile number to enter, for which she replied, "Mrs. Satish". To be honest, I was a bit disturbed with her anwer. But since I thought I should not interfere into it, I just stood back.

The biller repeated, "Ma'am, I asked YOUR name". And she said, "Yes, you can put it as Mrs. Sathish".

The first sign of losing your individuality after marriage. The ultimate cost of being dependent on someone else. Through this, the husband has been given sovereignty over you. 

After marriage, she adds her husband's name along with her own name. First on Facebook, then on ID card. And it's a trend now.


But, will a man do this ? Have you ever heard a man say that his name is Mr. Swapna? Sounds weird right ! And why doesn't it apply to a woman as well...? Change the name of father or mother which was with the name on Facebook or ID card till then, and replace it with a new one !

What do you really mean? Have you lived this long to be known by someone else's name? If not, just say or write your own name.

Otherwise, you are a slave. You're admitting yourself that you are under someone and not an individual. 

If you think deeply, you will understand.


Wishing you all to have a good day.

Thank you :)
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