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Being that boring one

There’s a heavy kind of quiet around someone people call 'boring'. They aren’t loud enough to fill a room. Not wild enough to become a story later. Just… steady. Predictable. Practical. Easy to forget.

They don’t drink. They don’t chase chaos. They’d rather stay in than join the loud nights. For some, that makes them a “teetotaller", for others, just "too plain". People mean no harm when they say, "You never do anything fun”, but every small remark sinks like a pebble in their chest.
Over time they start to wonder if stillness is a flaw, if simply being themselves is somehow not enough.

Inside, it isn’t calm at all. Their thoughts loop:
"Why can’t I be more exciting?"
"Why am I always the extra?"
"Would anyone notice if I disappeared?"

It’s the cold replies from someone they trust,
the message left on “seen,” the 'dear friend' who suddenly treats them like a spare space between plans. Tiny gestures others forget in a minute can sit heavy in their heart for days.

They often feel like the 'odd one out' everywhere - the quiet figure in a room full of noise, the person nobody quite knows how to include. When plans are made, they’re rarely the first thought. Sometimes no one texts for days. Not a single check-in.
No voice asking, "Are you okay?" No space where they can simply fall apart and be comforted. The silence grows until it feels like proof that they don’t belong anywhere.

And they feel it most when someone offers a rare bit of kindness - a warm text, a gentle smile. They give their whole heart without meaning to, hoping maybe this time it’s mutual. But the pattern stays; they’re everyone’s friend, rarely anyone’s close friend, never the first call, never the priority.
That gap hurts more than words can show.

Social media only makes it louder; photos of parties, easy laughter, plans that never include them. They scroll and shrink, convinced their life is a faded version of everyone else’s.

Anxiety slips in. Their heart races in rooms where no one even looks their way. Sadness hums low, and sleep feels safer than being awake. They start to wonder if tiredness is just who they are.

But here’s what people don't see; the so-called boring ones often carry the deepest worlds.

They are the quiet observers who notice every small kindness. They hold conversations that feel like a warm cup of tea. They build trust slowly but fiercely. Their presence might not shake ceilings,
but it steadies walls.

The world celebrates noise because it’s easy to see. But there is nothing small about being steady. Their value isn’t measured by parties or punchlines. It lives in how they listen,
how they care without applause, how they keep showing up even after cold replies, silent abandonments, and friendships that stay one-sided.

Being “boring” is not being empty. It is being quietly, stubbornly human - alive in a world that mistakes loudness for worth.

Wishing you to have a good day.

Thank you :)



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