Some people are always available. They reply fast. They listen patiently. They show up without being asked.
At first, this feels like kindness. Over time, it quietly turns into expectation.
When you’re always reachable, people stop checking if you’re okay. They stop valuing your time because it’s always there. Not out of cruelty - just habit.
Slowly, your presence becomes normal, not special. Your effort becomes assumed, not thanked.
You don’t complain. Because you don’t want to seem difficult. Because being “easy to talk to” became your identity.
But inside, something shifts.
You notice how people vanish when you need them. How your silence is ignored, but your availability is expected. How you give emotional space that no one makes for you.
This is where self-respect starts to hurt.
Not in big ways. In small moments; when you say “it’s okay” even when it isn’t. When you show up tired. When you choose peace for others and emptiness for yourself.
Being easily accessible teaches people how to treat you. If you’re always there, they don’t learn to value your absence.
One day, you pause. You reply slower. You say “not now” without guilt.
And you realize something simple and important: Kindness doesn’t require constant access. Availability is not love. And self-respect begins the moment you stop being endlessly reachable.
The right people will understand. The rest will fade. And that’s not loss. That’s balance.
Have a good day. Thank you :)