Myself, a human being

When a baby is born, someone else, who is more glorious is also born along. None other than a 'mother'. But hardly I've noticed anyone enquiring to the 'new mother' about her well being. Did they ever expect others to ask them all those? I don't know! They forget their comforts and desires just for their little one and yes, do we ever remember to buy something for her otherthan for the newborn? And what more, we usually forget to touch her forehead inorder to comfort her after the hours of pain and what we do is just rushing to pamper the baby!  Its not like not to love the baby ; but not 'just them'! Even I have done the same thing. When they reach home picking up all they used there after delivery, even I have avoided the mother and took the baby from her anxiously. Has she felt like she is a 'mere mother' and nothing else at that time? Did my act hurt her? A new mother usually undergoes many physical and mental struggles and all they need at t...

'Conditioning is the problem here' Have you ever heard so? Whether heard or not, we all are used to it for sure. Atleast 80% of problems around us take place because of this.  So what is conditioning? It is something through which the society tame us according to them. It begins from our childhood. "You are a girl, sit calmly."  "You are a boy. So don't cry." "Why don't you behave like others?" "Why aren't you walking like ordinary people?" "Why can't you speak like us?" "A Husband is equal to god." "A wife should work like a slave for her man." "A woman should be proud to eat the leftovers of her man." "Why can't you just leave it for him?" "Who do you think you are?" "You have black skin. So it would be difficult for you to get married!" "You look so fat! How can you even walk out and face others?" "No need to get ready this long!...

It is often heard from many, "I'm all alone ; people who stood with had left me, I don't have good friendships..."etc. The sad part is, many such people has broke down with these problems. It was a grief which mentally exhausted me too once. Thus, recovering from the isolation from your closer ones is not an easy task and I'm pretty sure about it. Later, I realised the fact that grieving all the time for this is of no use. Then onwards, I started discovering myself and I can say that I've succeeded in it to some extent. Today, I have many people to love and to be loved ; but I am confident that it won't break me down, even if they leave me alone, otherthan a small worry. We should be able to get over the people who left us alone. Just think that they don't deserve our friendship. Grieving always leads to mental stress and may even make you think that life is all over! It is our life and it is just our necessity to find our own happiness. Let us not ple...

Why and when should a person get married? When you get a job? When you complete your studies? After having your own house? To have kids?  To enjoy sexual life?  To make the man a better person? When a girl has some love affairs? When the society start asking about it? When your parents need a you to have a  companion? To make them happy?  To let them be peaceful in their old age?  To complete your duty? To not to be alone?  When you need someone to cook/ work for you?  When you attain the 'age bar' set by the society? When marriage brokers starts approacing you? When your horroscope/ the astrologer advice you? When the matrimony sites provoke you/ your parents? When you have a younger sister who is already attaining the age to get married? When you don't have financial stability? To protect the pride of your family? Most of the weddings take place because of the above reasons. Actually, why and when should we get married? Is it really a necessity? You ...